12 Basic Needs of a Child from Parents

Parenting is no easy task, and having children is one of the biggest tasks of them all. Kids will test you in every way possible, but if you can rise up as a good parent, you’ll hopefully raise happy, functional members of society in the process. To start this tough journey though, it’s a good idea to make sure you understand what your child needs from their family and what kind of life they should be led into.

What does Every Child need?

Since each child has his or her own personality, the basic needs of a child from parents may vary from individual to individual. However, there are some common needs shared by most children in their growing-up years. In this article, we will be discussing 12 of the basic needs of a child from parents, including physical touch and emotional well-being. Let’s take a look at what these 12 basic needs are and how you can provide them for your children in order to help them develop into healthy adults.

Infographics explaining basic needs of a child

1. Freedom to make choices and decisions

We live in a society where parents try too hard to make children happy. They completely ignore the need of a child that is to think on his/her own, take decisions and grow up as an independently thinking human being.

When parents give their children the freedom to make choices and decisions for themselves, it not only helps them learn about self-control, but also encourages them to become more responsible, independent, and confident. Children need to know that you trust them with decision-making.

Now is the time to stop what you’re doing and listen – really listen – to your child. Your child may not tell you this out loud, but they need you to be there for them – to listen and understand.

2. Attachment with parent

Attachment between a child and parents is very important for a child’s normal social, emotional and behavioral development. Attachment to a parent helps a child feel safe and secure.

A child that is not attached to his/her parents will be a child that will fail to explore and take risks. The child’s success in acquiring the necessary social skills is dependent on the parent’s ability to provide a nurturing environment. Achieving this goal is a true test of the parent’s determination and parenting skills.

Parents who consistently comfort and soothe their children can help them learn the skills needed to form healthy attachments in the future.

3. Social and emotional support

Social and emotional support is one of the most requested needs of the child from parents. But the question is how to provide this?

As a parent, you play a vital role in providing social and emotional support to your child. It is believed that a child’s emotions are formed in the first three years of her life, when she is at toddler to preschool age. Thus, parents may help their child develop healthy feelings by accepting emotion regulation as one important developmental milestone.

4. The need for security

Children who feel secure in their parent’s love and attention tend to be more trusting, comfortable with intimacy, and better at regulating their emotions. Some studies show that these children are less likely to become alcoholics as adults. Parents who can respond sensitively and consistently to their child’s needs help create an environment in which a child feels secure enough to explore his or her surroundings confidently. To help create an environment in which your child feels secure enough to explore her surroundings confidently, it’s important for parents to respond sensitively and consistently to their child’s needs.

All children need to feel safe and secure—but how do you do that? First, find out what your child’s biggest fears are (don’t forget older kids!) then work on dispelling them. For example, if your child is afraid of monsters under his bed at night, make sure he knows you will protect him if anything scary happens. If your child gets nervous when he sees police officers walking down your street because he thinks they might arrest him for something he did wrong—even though you’ve explained over and over again that only bad people get arrested—explain to him why police officers have badges but don’t arrest people unless they really have done something wrong.

5. The need for belongingness

People who feel valued and loved by others tend to develop a more positive outlook on life. Children need to feel loved and wanted. They need parents who enjoy spending time with their children, in order to develop healthy emotional connections. When a parent spends time with a child and interacts with him or her (playing games, reading books), the child can build stronger cognitive abilities and social skills.

6. The need for love and affection

Ever since research has been taking place, love and affection have proven to be crucial in any child’s development. It is a well-known fact that care and love from parents is the first basic need of a child. A child needs love and affection from parents in order to grow up into a balanced and healthy adult. A child is a very delicate creature. Regardless of their behavior or conduct, they need to be guided, loved, and nourished so that they can become better individuals. They thrive on that kind of care and attention. They learn about the world through their parent’s hands, eyes, and posture. Love for the child should be unconditional as it has a positive effect on the child’s life even when they grow up.

For if a parent tries to give too less a child may not be able to fulfill its emotional needs like an expression of feelings and may develop some psychological problems on the other hand, if a parent tries to give a lot of love than required the child may become dependent and might develop some characteristics like over possessiveness, clinginess and being moody.

Parental love has an impact on children in a wide variety of ways. For one, it is essential for healthy brain development. Levels of certain neurotransmitters—including serotonin and dopamine—increase when babies are cuddled by their parents. Researchers have also found that parental love promotes emotional security and lowers levels of stress hormones such as cortisol in infants, reducing their risk for developing mood disorders later in life. According to Maslow, however, children need love and affection just as much as they need food or water.

7. The need for self-esteem

Children who have parents who love them unconditionally and work to instill confidence in them tend to feel good about themselves. They know that they are capable, loved, and wanted by those around them. Children with high self-esteem often do better in school and other activities because they feel comfortable engaging with others; they are not worried about being ridiculed or made fun of for their ideas or mistakes.

8. The need to develop their potential

We must give children opportunities to learn. This happens when we read with them, talk to them, and make sure they have time to run around or simply play independently with their toys. One book I read recently called Playfulness describes in great detail how important free play is for childhood development; it’s not just fun! This is why we see so many American parents (and children) glued to screens all day long – they don’t know how to play unsupervised because no one has taught them how to do it. But that doesn’t mean you need fancy toys or games in order for your child to develop their potential; my kids love playing house and will spend hours doing so without any background noise.

9. The need to be an individual

Let your child know that being like others is not always being like you. Remind them that it’s normal to be different, and there’s nothing wrong with it. Allow them to take risks and go against what others think is right so they can learn how to develop their own identity. This will make them feel confident in themselves and allow them to express themselves without feeling inferior or superior to anyone else. This will ultimately help develop their self-esteem, self-confidence, emotional resilience, and ability to relate well with others throughout their lifetime. They will also learn good coping skills for when things don’t work out exactly as planned because they have seen you do it yourself!

10. The need to be appreciated

When children feel that they are loved, wanted, and valued, they tend to be happy with themselves. This also leads to improved self-esteem, which is at its lowest when children feel that their parents don’t want them around. Appreciation can help build self-confidence, self-respect, and independence—all essential ingredients for healthy child development. If you want your child to respect you as an authority figure, encourage your child’s individuality and cultivate his unique talents by letting him know he’s appreciated for what he does.

11. The need to be listened to and understood

Psychologists agree that all children have a need to be listened to and understood. Parents who provide their children with opportunities to feel heard and listened to typically build trust between themselves and their children. This is an important factor in healthy child development. Children who do not experience validation or feel listened to may develop high levels of anxiety, depression, oppositional defiance disorder (ODD), anger issues or other difficulties.

12. And, most importantly, the need for rules.

Many children will be thrilled to follow rules; it gives them security. When kids know what’s expected, they are able to feel confident about their lives. They don’t have to wonder if you’re displeased with them or if you might decide to send them away. Instead, they can focus on learning and growing in an environment that encourages success. To create your list of rules for children, start by breaking down each goal into smaller pieces: a rule for homework, one for chores, and another for dinner time. As you compile your list, make sure every rule is tied back to your long-term goal as a parent—that is, taking care of your child now so he will be able to care for himself later in life. You may find that setting a few rules for yourself helps you create an environment where it’s easier for kids to thrive. Make sure your children understand why rules exist and what kind of behavior is expected from them.

Takeaway

There are a lot of things that children need from their parents which can be divided into two types of needs: physical and psychological. Children’s physical needs include food, clothing, and shelter as well as medical care, hygiene, and exercise. Psychologically, they need love and security, attention, affection, and approval. A parent’s role is not completed by providing these things alone; they must also use good judgment when setting limits for their children. And most importantly, the parents need to communicate effectively with the children so that they are able to understand their feelings and wishes.

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